To Marry or Not to Marry?
To get hitched or not to tie the knot? That is the doubt. It never was the question. It was before ‘When to marry?’ not ‘why to marry’. For a long time adult females were required and expected themselves to catch a spouse young, marry and set up home with tiddlers and a pet, and devote their days to operating a well run home. Maybe because adult females have been loosed from what were once their established roles, that a wedding is no longer as important and most assuredly not the only road to venture down. In fact umpteen people- both men and female absolutely detest the idea of marriage, and can’t imagine looking into a partner’s face and promising without question to spend the rest of their days with them until death do they part. In many ways it’s a shame, because weddings can be such joyful events- especially when they feature a fine-looking wedding robe and sky lanterns. But, ill-omened marriages can be damaging, financially and emotionally harmful, and the most isolating things ever. Though being in a unhappy partnership is also massively isolating, somehow with the marriage mark, it’s even worse. The outside world expect more of a pair when they are formally married and have purportedly spent so much cash on their wedding day. They are supposed to be happy or to at least try their darndest to be so. As a result of this perceived external pressure, many men and women feel they have to put on a face and hide their real attitudes. The reason why there used to be a greater number marriages or why marriages endured a few generations ago is because couples had no choice but to keep battling on with their relationship. This is advantageous in some ways, but in others, it is very negative. Yes there were a greater number of married couples, but there were also many more desperately grim ones.
